Express your emotions despite fear and shyness to tell the difference between sexual desire and true love.
Regular expression of your emotions, especially emotions of love, desire and admiration, will change your life. As gay men, we are taught by our parents and society to be quiet… and to hide our sexuality. The result is that we not only hide our sexuality but we also hide how we feel inside towards each other. And because healthy relationships need healthy expression of one’s feelings, the biggest breakthrough in any gay man’s life will be more frequent expression of his emotion to others, especially emotion of love and desire.
When we keep our emotions to ourselves, we are unable to fully understand what we are feeling. This is how we often develop strong feelings to other gay men even thought “it makes no sense”. A feeling starts out inside our body and then it wants to connect to the mind. To the degree that we share it with others, we can connect our mind to the meaning of that feeling and have a healthier relationship with ourselves and those we love and desire.