Amazing interview with Arnie Vargas who is a counselor and workshop facilitator for gay men. How do you choose who is good for you and why? How do you deal with top-bottom incompatibility? Why do some gay men project their own insecurities of “I am not good enough” into “he is not good enough for me”.
Emotional availability is the most important requirement for a healthy relationship. Without emotional availability, you cannot create trust, safety and acceptance, which are part of the bonding and connecting process. You must demand and require emotional expression from every man you date and put on standby those relationships which show emotional limitation and emotional unavailability. Everything you will experience inside emotionally empty relationship is torture and slow death and you know it!
Discover a new perspective on high performance in work and life. Find out about the biggest myth about productivity, creativity and ambition. Undo years of self-doubt and learn about a new approach to personal growth, success and achievement.
Today’s uncertainty, economic instability and fear can paralyze even the strongest of men. This is why gay men need to become more selective about their friends. To solve current life’s challenges, we want to seek out those friends who will help us come out of denial, help us do the things that we are avoiding and also help us do the things we are afraid of. Time waste and laziness are no longer an option for successful gay professionals.
Wishing you full frontal authenticity during 2016 Holiday Season. May this Holiday Season bring you awareness and the courage to be honest with yourself. I wish for you to be more honest with yourself about your denials, stories, narratives and fears that prevent you from being the real you – the highest version of you. Ask yourself these questions: What are you avoiding to notice about your life? What are you in denial about? What are you afraid to do? What excuses or stories are you telling yourself that keep you where you are? Those questions will help you become more authentic with yourself and bring about big changes in 2017.
Gay masculinity is about creation, about stepping out of your comfort zone, about doing things you have never done before. The essence of masculinity is forward momentum that feels natural to every gay man who has connected himself to his masculine energy. Throughout history, masculinity was the origin of progress, conquest and adventure and every gay man has the power inside him for more success in love, health and money.
Most gay men have conflicts with parents that need to be solved. Getting “completion” with your parents is very important so that you no longer use your intimate relationships as the arena for solving hidden anger, resentment, dissapointment and hurt from when you were a child. Unconscious hurts and anger often makes us choose toxic gay lovers. When you resolve issues with your parents, you will no longer be attracting men who are bad for you.