Identity crisis can be a challenge for gay men who are seeking deeper connections in dating. The idea is simple – “become the kind of person who behaves in such a way that the result you want produces itself”. Another way of saying it is: “shape your identity so that your behaviors lead you to the result of having commited gay relationships.” Let’s discuss the most common obstacles related to identity that prevent gay men from succeeding in relationships, money and health.
Gay masculinity is about creation, about stepping out of your comfort zone, about doing things you have never done before. The essence of masculinity is forward momentum that feels natural to every gay man who has connected himself to his masculine energy. Throughout history, masculinity was the origin of progress, conquest and adventure and every gay man has the power inside him for more success in love, health and money.
Most gay men have conflicts with parents that need to be solved. Getting “completion” with your parents is very important so that you no longer use your intimate relationships as the arena for solving hidden anger, resentment, dissapointment and hurt from when you were a child. Unconscious hurts and anger often makes us choose toxic gay lovers. When you resolve issues with your parents, you will no longer be attracting men who are bad for you.
Every gay man will face negativity, rejection and complications with dating and relationships. How you handle those situations will depend on your competence in the following three areas: emotional processing, sexual intelligence and self-love. This video gives you simple steps for how to process yourself emotionally, how to develop sexual intelligence and how to increase self-love.
Balance your sexual energies so that you don’t judge other gay men by their “package”. As an exercise, imagine that when you meet another gay man, his genitals are gone and notice how you feel. If you feel ackward, it probably means that you are putting too much empasis on the genitalia instead of focusing on his character, personality and energy.
Should you choose yourself or your lover? Is self-love more important than romantic love towards another? This video explains the difference and one of the most important lesson every gay man will have to learn in his life. While romantic love feels 100 times stronger, we should not sell out ourselves because the price to pay is way too high.
Life has a beginning and life has an end. And in between you work on yourself to become a better, stronger person – so that you can achieve your dreams, so that you can have destiny that is fulfilled, so that you can have a sense of accomplishment, fulfillment and happiness and so that when you are dead – on your thumb stone, you have something to write about that symbolized who you were, what you stood for and what you fought for.