Gay relationships have deeper benefits that go beyond companionships and sex. Our neurosis, rigidity, stubborness, bitterness can get polished out of our personalities when we are overcoming relationship challenges and dealing well with conflicts inside a relationship. While most people exit at the first sign of conflict or friction, the ones who stay and practice acceptance and letting go can see massive improvements in their general well being.
Acceptance is a powerful spiritual practice. When we accept other gay men as they are, we are training ourselves to accept our own insecurities, mistakes and baggage. When we reject another person, we are actually training ourselves to reject the parts of us that we don’t like.
Spiritual awakening for gay men is important because of the additional stresses we come across in relationships and in friendships. Our families are often ambivalent about our lives, so we need to stay “sane” and strong on our own. This is where spiritual practices come very helpful and powerful. With spirituality, we can fill our heart with the love that we need. By reconnecting to God, in whichever form he exists, we can receive ever-present love and connection that never goes away.
Amazing interview with Arnie Vargas who is a counselor and workshop facilitator for gay men. How do you choose who is good for you and why? How do you deal with top-bottom incompatibility? Why do some gay men project their own insecurities of “I am not good enough” into “he is not good enough for me”.
Emotional availability is the most important requirement for a healthy relationship. Without emotional availability, you cannot create trust, safety and acceptance, which are part of the bonding and connecting process. You must demand and require emotional expression from every man you date and put on standby those relationships which show emotional limitation and emotional unavailability. Everything you will experience inside emotionally empty relationship is torture and slow death and you know it!
Discover a new perspective on high performance in work and life. Find out about the biggest myth about productivity, creativity and ambition. Undo years of self-doubt and learn about a new approach to personal growth, success and achievement.
Today’s uncertainty, economic instability and fear can paralyze even the strongest of men. This is why gay men need to become more selective about their friends. To solve current life’s challenges, we want to seek out those friends who will help us come out of denial, help us do the things that we are avoiding and also help us do the things we are afraid of. Time waste and laziness are no longer an option for successful gay professionals.