Wishing you full frontal authenticity during 2016 Holiday Season. May this Holiday Season bring you awareness and the courage to be honest with yourself. I wish for you to be more honest with yourself about your denials, stories, narratives and fears that prevent you from being the real you – the highest version of you. Ask yourself these questions: What are you avoiding to notice about your life? What are you in denial about? What are you afraid to do? What excuses or stories are you telling yourself that keep you where you are? Those questions will help you become more authentic with yourself and bring about big changes in 2017.
Any gay man can get fit and healthy with regular walks and veggies. You don’t need a personal trainer to teach you how to walk or how to motivate yourself. Instead, find a higher level of commitment from friends and mentors and create habits that do not rely on personal trainers or difficult exercise routines. Simple walks on a consistent basis coupled with veggie soups you make at home will be enough to transform you into a healthy and fit gay man.
Identity crisis can be a challenge for gay men who are seeking deeper connections in dating. The idea is simple – “become the kind of person who behaves in such a way that the result you want produces itself”. Another way of saying it is: “shape your identity so that your behaviors lead you to the result of having commited gay relationships.” Let’s discuss the most common obstacles related to identity that prevent gay men from succeeding in relationships, money and health.
Gay masculinity is about creation, about stepping out of your comfort zone, about doing things you have never done before. The essence of masculinity is forward momentum that feels natural to every gay man who has connected himself to his masculine energy. Throughout history, masculinity was the origin of progress, conquest and adventure and every gay man has the power inside him for more success in love, health and money.
Most gay men have conflicts with parents that need to be solved. Getting “completion” with your parents is very important so that you no longer use your intimate relationships as the arena for solving hidden anger, resentment, dissapointment and hurt from when you were a child. Unconscious hurts and anger often makes us choose toxic gay lovers. When you resolve issues with your parents, you will no longer be attracting men who are bad for you.
Every gay man will face negativity, rejection and complications with dating and relationships. How you handle those situations will depend on your competence in the following three areas: emotional processing, sexual intelligence and self-love. This video gives you simple steps for how to process yourself emotionally, how to develop sexual intelligence and how to increase self-love.
Balance your sexual energies so that you don’t judge other gay men by their “package”. As an exercise, imagine that when you meet another gay man, his genitals are gone and notice how you feel. If you feel ackward, it probably means that you are putting too much empasis on the genitalia instead of focusing on his character, personality and energy.