Emotional availability is the most important requirement for a healthy relationship. Without emotional availability, you cannot create trust, safety and acceptance, which are part of the bonding and connecting process. You must demand and require emotional expression from every man you date and put on standby those relationships which show emotional limitation and emotional unavailability. Everything you will experience inside emotionally empty relationship is torture and slow death and you know it!
Today’s uncertainty, economic instability and fear can paralyze even the strongest of men. This is why gay men need to become more selective about their friends. To solve current life’s challenges, we want to seek out those friends who will help us come out of denial, help us do the things that we are avoiding and also help us do the things we are afraid of. Time waste and laziness are no longer an option for successful gay professionals.
Most gay men have conflicts with parents that need to be solved. Getting “completion” with your parents is very important so that you no longer use your intimate relationships as the arena for solving hidden anger, resentment, dissapointment and hurt from when you were a child. Unconscious hurts and anger often makes us choose toxic gay lovers. When you resolve issues with your parents, you will no longer be attracting men who are bad for you.
Every gay man will face negativity, rejection and complications with dating and relationships. How you handle those situations will depend on your competence in the following three areas: emotional processing, sexual intelligence and self-love. This video gives you simple steps for how to process yourself emotionally, how to develop sexual intelligence and how to increase self-love.
Balance your sexual energies so that you don’t judge other gay men by their “package”. As an exercise, imagine that when you meet another gay man, his genitals are gone and notice how you feel. If you feel ackward, it probably means that you are putting too much empasis on the genitalia instead of focusing on his character, personality and energy.
At times you go out on blind dates. The blind date can be quite a nightmare if your date finds your interests totally uninteresting. If he is an introvert who likes to stay indoors and you are an outdoor person, chances are you will struggle and eventually call it quits.