Today’s uncertainty, economic instability and fear can paralyze even the strongest of men. This is why gay men need to become more selective about their friends. To solve current life’s challenges, we want to seek out those friends who will help us come out of denial, help us do the things that we are avoiding and also help us do the things we are afraid of. Time waste and laziness are no longer an option for successful gay professionals.
Every gay man will face negativity, rejection and complications with dating and relationships. How you handle those situations will depend on your competence in the following three areas: emotional processing, sexual intelligence and self-love. This video gives you simple steps for how to process yourself emotionally, how to develop sexual intelligence and how to increase self-love.
The biggest challenge in any gay man’s life after 40 will be moving on from past relationships and creating a clean slate for new ones. Many clients I work with, who are looking to create new relationships, are still holding on to their ex-boyfriends even after many years have passed. In this article I will help you understand why breaking up is difficult and I will help you become aware of automatic patterns from childhood that make some relationships very difficult to let go of.
Our major needs for love, companionship and significance can be met through a group of authentic friendships. Someone with 3-5 friends will be more patient, calm, and rational when meeting people, dating and creating a relationship. He will be more successful in finding love and happiness because he does not put all his eggs in one basket. By expecting that one person will satisfy all his needs, he is ultimately sentencing himself to lifelong suffering.
If you are a gay man over 40, three psychological areas will either break you or make you! Shame, Partner Selection and Social Engagement. If you succeed at those three, the rest should fall into place automatically. Read below and watch the video to find out more.