Many gay men who are very successful in their careers struggle in relationships for years, confused about the reason. Is it about them? Is it about their choices of partners? What is going on that makes it difficult for them to make relationships work?
Relationships are possible for every gay man regardless of age, body type and experience. But relationships are not possible for those gay men who are still living in the space of shame and primitivism. Grindr is a classical example of a culture of shame and tribalism – reducing the complex and intricate meaning of relationships to the primitive and tribal. Grindr rejects all values that make healthy relationships possible and emphasizes a “throw away” culture and anti-human attitudes.
Gay relationships don’t exist in a vacuum of empty space. Cultural norms that promote sexual compatibility need to be rejected. Instead – those cultural norms that promote emotional connections and spiritual growth – must be developed and build to create a healthy container for a serious and long term relationship.
The discussion about gay romantic love is easy when we accept that romantic love has a requirement. Not everyone will achieve romantic love in their lives – in fact most people never create a healthy romantic love in their relationships. Why? Because they never accepted the requirements of romantic love – ability to navigate the deep waters of human nature.
Gay Dating Advice: How to identify narcissistic people early so that you don’t waste time and break up after 6 months with regrets.
Narcissistic gay men are so self centered and self indulgent that they see friends and lovers as mere extensions of themselves. Because their egos are so very fragile, they constantly crave attention which eventually puts their partner at risk of being on the loosing end of the relationship.
At times you go out on blind dates. The blind date can be quite a nightmare if your date finds your interests totally uninteresting. If he is an introvert who likes to stay indoors and you are an outdoor person, chances are you will struggle and eventually call it quits.