Emotional availability is the most important requirement for a healthy relationship. Without emotional availability, you cannot create trust, safety and acceptance, which are part of the bonding and connecting process. You must demand and require emotional expression from every man you date and put on standby those relationships which show emotional limitation and emotional unavailability. Everything you will experience inside emotionally empty relationship is torture and slow death and you know it!
Gay masculinity is about creation, about stepping out of your comfort zone, about doing things you have never done before. The essence of masculinity is forward momentum that feels natural to every gay man who has connected himself to his masculine energy. Throughout history, masculinity was the origin of progress, conquest and adventure and every gay man has the power inside him for more success in love, health and money.
Most gay men have conflicts with parents that need to be solved. Getting “completion” with your parents is very important so that you no longer use your intimate relationships as the arena for solving hidden anger, resentment, dissapointment and hurt from when you were a child. Unconscious hurts and anger often makes us choose toxic gay lovers. When you resolve issues with your parents, you will no longer be attracting men who are bad for you.
Every gay man will face negativity, rejection and complications with dating and relationships. How you handle those situations will depend on your competence in the following three areas: emotional processing, sexual intelligence and self-love. This video gives you simple steps for how to process yourself emotionally, how to develop sexual intelligence and how to increase self-love.
Balance your sexual energies so that you don’t judge other gay men by their “package”. As an exercise, imagine that when you meet another gay man, his genitals are gone and notice how you feel. If you feel ackward, it probably means that you are putting too much empasis on the genitalia instead of focusing on his character, personality and energy.
At times you go out on blind dates. The blind date can be quite a nightmare if your date finds your interests totally uninteresting. If he is an introvert who likes to stay indoors and you are an outdoor person, chances are you will struggle and eventually call it quits.
Shyness is a problem that may lead to one missing out on all things that life offers. Shy people are less likely to date and focus more on themselves than conversing with other people. Chances are shy people are perceived as less friendly and boring because of his inability to speak in social undertakings. He also gives the impression of being inferior and less likely to succeed.