See the enclosed photo and you will see a typical message after an initial meeting. Even though the meeting was a “coffee chat”, the person interpreted it as a date prior to entering a “relationship”. The person was an older gentleman who was very nice and charming, but I was not looking for a relationships – all I wanted is a coffee chat and get to know him as an acquaintance and a friend.
The main outcome/goal of this meeting was to get to know the person, so even though he is asking for a “relationship”, I don’t directly say that it will not happen, all I am saying in my reply is what I am looking for and subliminally let him decide if he wants to be part of it. This way I turn the table around and I let him reject me and stay in control. If he decides to reject or accept my message, I win in both cases because I never hurt his ego and as a result he will be nice to me the next time we meet.