50 Magical Phrases That Build Love And Intimacy In Gay Friendships And Relationships

Most gay men undervalue the impact of their language on their gay relationships and friendships. Make a choice to consciously nurture your relationships with verbal communications of love. Be kind and sincere. Ask open-ended questions with an open heart. Listen emphatically and non-defensively. Remember, there are no conditions, no strings, no expectations, and no manipulations. Simply, love to love. Sprinkle your relationships with these loving sentiments and watch your relationships blossom:

• I am here for you.
• Thank you. Thanks for all you do for me and all the ways in which you add value to my life.
• You are beautiful. What I find most beautiful about you, inside and out, is: _____.
• How are you? Truthfully, fully and completely — how are you, really?
• Tell me about your dreams.
• Tell me about your fears.
• Tell me about your beliefs about life, love, the world, etc.
• I am thinking about you.
• I appreciate you.
• I care about your feelings.
• You are important to me.
• I made a mistake and I’m sorry. I sincerely apologize. Please forgive me.
• I value our relationship.
• I am grateful and fortunate to have you in my life.
• What can I do to support you?
• How are you feeling about our relationship?
• How are you feeling about me?
• The qualities I love about you most are: _____.
• I notice and really appreciate your efforts and growth in these areas: _____.
• What’s most meaningful to me about our connection is: ______.
• Great job! Nice work! Well done.
• These are the ways in which you have touched my life and made me better: _____.
• It’s an honor to know you and to be close to you.
• I want the very best for you.
• I cherish the following experiences we’ve shared: _______.
• I trust you. I trust in our relationship.
• I forgive you. I let go of my resentments.
• These are all of the wonderful, positive qualities I see in you: _____.
• Your greatest gifts and strengths are: _____.
• I respect you.
• I respect your decisions even though they’re different from mine or what I’ve recommended. You’re free to make your own choices.
• I support you in any and every way that I can.
• I believe in you.
• I lovingly and trustingly give you the time and space you need.
• You can achieve anything you want in life.
• You are special. You are divinely and uniquely YOU.
• You are free to be your authentic self in the context of our relationship.
• I welcome you to be honest and truthful with me.
• I desire to have/maintain an intimate and loving relationship with you.
• You elicit the following positive emotions and feelings in me: _______.
• You are not responsible for me, for my bad behaviors or my poor choices.
• What would you like from me or from our relationship?
• It’s not your fault. I don’t blame you.
• I support you in taking care of yourself.
• Your feelings are understandable and normal responses to everything you have been through.
• I do not expect you to be perfect. I absolutely understand you are a human being and that none of us are perfect.
• I acknowledge my areas of needed improvement including ABC, and am working on them by doing XYZ.
• It’s important to me to know and understand you.
• I come to you with an open heart and an open mind.
• I love you fully, completely, and exactly as you are.