Life Is Short: Don’t Be Picky And Perfectionistic About Choosing Your Gay Lover
Don’t be picky about your dates. Work on yourself instead.
When you say to yourself “he is not good enough for me” – you are actually saying “I am not good enough for him”. Your mind will project unconscious insecurities onto others so that you can see them. This is why gay men feel judgmental of other gay men. You can overcome this by noticing when you meet people how your irrational “stories” and judgments raise to your awareness.
Top or bottom shouldn’t matter in the long run.
Whether he is a top or bottom shouldn’t matter because if he likes you he would be flexible to do anything with you. If you are so rigid about your sexual practices than we need to ask a deeper questions about your motivation for being in a relationship.