Asking for a second date can be just as nerve racking as asking for a first date. The fear of rejection when you ask for a first date still exists to a certain degree when you are asking for a second date. Bust out these moves next time you’re hanging with a dude you really want to see again. The phone will definitely ring.

Does he look like your dream guy? Just follow these moves to win over your man’s heart at the very first date, which would definitely drive him to ask you for a second date.


Give him encouragement.

Say something like “I had a great time tonight” before you part ways. Hi is far more likely to ask you out again if you leave him with some clear indication that you’re interested.

Know when to bite your tongue!

We live in a confess-all culture where telling everyone everything has become okay. But on first dates, guys are super-sensitive to a few topics that really turn them off. Some examples: anything to do with personal hygiene, why your last relationship failed, your thoughts on commitment, and current body hang-ups.

Hold off on hitting the sack.

Sure he’s putting the moves on you, but most guys would rather have you make them wait beyond your first meeting. Fact is, men love a challenge, so give him something to chase.

Make him work around you.

Of course you want to see him again as soon as you can, but don’t be available for marathon text messaging sessions every time. It sends the message that you have a life beyond this potential romance… which men love.

So Good luck! Hope you get a more sizzling date next time.   And don’t forget to put your comments below!


  1. I think that the important thing to remember if you’re anxious on the first date, is that the other person on the date is probably just as anxious. It helps to know that you aren’t alone. Just remember, it’s only a first date, and unless there is love at first sight, it is an insignificant thing in your life.

    True, you would like it to work out, but, what I’m talking about is telling yourself these things because if you believe them, it helps to take the pressure off, and you could be more like yourself. No matter how you feel about the other guy the idea is to take some of the pressure, therefore the fear of failure, away and makes you that much lighter of spirit. Then you can work on what you have to offer to the other guy. You can talk yourself into a state of mind, and that is what I’m suggesting. Remember that you have a lot to offer.

  2. I just did an unusual thing in asking for a second date. I didn’t ask. I met someone tonight in person after thoroughly weeding him out online. He was exhausted, had a bad day at work, and although we got along, and seem to feel the other is one of the good guys, he was yawning all over the place, and finally had to excuse himself.

    I’m not all that secure and felt that perhaps I was boring him, or he didn’t like me. Unfortunately my mind works in that direction, even though my head tells me it wasn’t true. You could see the exhaustion on his face and most likely he had a bad day. I do want to see him again, my online experience tells me he’s quite a guy.

    So I sent him an email suggesting that when he wakes up tomorrow morning I’m hoping he’ll feel better and that he’ll have a better day, and suggesting that perhaps we can meet early next week. That was asking for a date, but being very subtle about it. I’ll be it works Now he know that I’m interested.

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