Respecting other people is one of the basic human values. Schools and parents try to inculcate it to their children, however, it is still one of the most undermined value.
Respect is one of the most neglected values maybe because it is can be viewed as a value that only affects other people. However, there are many things you could get by giving respect. Nobody talks much about it, but respect is one of the determining factors of a guy’s success in gay dating. If you know how to get respect from a guy, you definitely possess a quality that sets you apart from other men.
How do you get respect in the gay dating world? This article tries to give some tips on how to accomplish that.
Getting respect from other people entails self-respect. How can you expect to be respected if you yourself don’t know how to respect yourself? Self-respect starts with having a healthy self-esteem.
Self-esteem can be put plainly as one’s view of oneself. Developing and boosting one’s self-esteem requires conscious effort. You must start with self-assessment to find out about your insecurities and to find out possible ways of reversing these. Self-respect transcends from one’s soul, the lack of it can never be hidden.
Self-acceptance is the first step towards having self-esteem. You must avoid comparing oneself with other people. This will only end with envy and added insecurities. Accepting yourself, including your weaknesses is the only true way to gaining self-respect.
-What you give is what you take
To be able to get respect, you must know how to give respect. But…
Being a gentleman doesn’t seem to pay much these days. Nice guys are always left behind and beaten by the bad boys. The nice guys are stuck with being seen by gay guys only as friends. Unfortunately, many gay men really dig the bad boys, but this shouldn’t be a reason for you to give in and join the dark side. Some may initially like the bad boys but eventually, when maturity sets in and when the long-term picture comes into play, the gentleman usually becomes a gay relationship seeker’s top choice.
Simple gestures such as proper greetings, opening doors and offering help will give a guy a “good” image.
The reason why most nice guys are seen by men as mediocre and are never admired by them is that they portray a very stiff and boring personality. Low self-esteem may be driving away a man from being comfortable in gay social context. He might be viewing other men as people whom he needs to please. In respecting other guys, you eventually please them but this is not the primary motive, you respect them because you choose to and that is what you think is the right thing to do.
If in school or work or wherever, you should try talking with other guys on a deeper level. Ask them about their interests, thoughts on things and hobbies. That can be good way to start. You will eventually find out that other gay men think differently from you, but there is beauty which lies behind differences.
When you eventually becomes comfortable with talking with others, you can then be more open to other topics which are more sensitive, such as sex. If you asks a man about sex, it doesn’t mean that you are disrespecting him, but this should be done in the right moment and through the right way. Gay Men have a tendency to have sexual thoughts all the time and this should be put under control. You must see beyond the physical appearance and connect with the inner soul of the guy you are looking to date.
Men don’t need to be assholes when it comes to physical appearance. Respecting is in itself is a very virtuous thing to do and gives one fulfillment in itself. Respect works through life in various levels and its benefits to the giver and the receiver are priceless. The best relationships start with respect and are maintained by respect.