Bisexuality As Fragmented Attraction Instead Of Sexual Orientation

Bisexuality is not a sexual orientation. Virtually all bisexual men have a split attraction. Emotions go to women, sex goes to men. Such split of attraction creates dishonesty and betrayals for anyone who is involved in with a bisexual person. Their attraction has been cut in half to fit into a shamed and fragmented context of relatedness, which has been programmed by their parents, friends, experiences and lack of healthy interactions with gay men.

Gay Coaching: Powerful Exercise For Sexual Health

Balance your sexual energies so that you don’t judge other gay men by their “package”. As an exercise, imagine that when you meet another gay man, his genitals are gone and notice how you feel. If you feel ackward, it probably means that you are putting too much empasis on the genitalia instead of focusing on his character, personality and energy.

Myth of gay sexual compatibility in gay dating and relationships.

Sexual compatibility can take away opportunities to make new friends and develop long term relationships. In a world of top and bottom we never get the full package. “Perfect sex” usually comes at the cost of personality mismatch. A new perspective is helpful to make better choices for lovers and friends.

I believe that looking for sexual compatibility has nothing to do with sexual compatibility but it has everything to do with the desire to feel comfortable, validated and accepted. I think that the reason why gay men are looking for sexual compatibility is because they are looking to reduce uncertainty, abandonment and rejection when meeting others. Because sexual connection is the easiest to experience, given the time and effort involved, it kidnaps the process of connecting and gives an illusion of a connection.