Gay life is different from straight life in many ways. Gay men don’t have the same patterns of behavior, the same moral code, gay men don’t have a philosophy yet. If during the first 10 years after coming out your life is difficult – it is because it’s supposed to be difficult because you don’t know how it “all” works, nobody taught you how to “Be Gay”.
PrEP for HIV neg men is not necessary and invites sexual behaviors that create even more damage. HIV is not a physical disease. It is the outcome of psychological issues originating in childhood, gay-specific issues and trauma.
Have you ever given up on a dream because you’ve listened to that ‘little voice’ in your head that tells you that you ‘can’t do it’ or ‘what’s the point?’ That inner voice is the critic inside of everyone that causes many bright futures to come to a screaming halt.
The second most common misconception about love is the idea that dependency is love. This is a misconception with which psychotherapists must deal on a daily basis. Its effect is seen most dramatically in an individual who makes an attempt or gesture or threat to commit suicide or who becomes incapacitatingly depressed in response to a rejection or separation from spouse or lover.
Randall sought my help because he was stuck being miserable and had no idea how to get out of his misery. In his life he had experienced moments of great joy and sense of oneness with all of life, but those moments were infrequent. He wanted more of those moments but had no idea how to bring them about.
Jim consulted with me because his boyfriend of 18 years had threatened to leave him if he didn’t stop blaming him all the time. He admitted to frequently blaming him in a variety of situations. He blamed him if he thought he made a mistake, if he thought he was wrong about something, if he was feeling alone, or even if he had a bad day at work.
How many times have you lost control of yourself when you’re angry? Did you do or said something which you regretted over time?