Balance your sexual energies so that you don’t judge other gay men by their “package”. As an exercise, imagine that when you meet another gay man, his genitals are gone and notice how you feel. If you feel ackward, it probably means that you are putting too much empasis on the genitalia instead of focusing on his character, personality and energy.
Should you choose yourself or your lover? Is self-love more important than romantic love towards another? This video explains the difference and one of the most important lesson every gay man will have to learn in his life. While romantic love feels 100 times stronger, we should not sell out ourselves because the price to pay is way too high.
The biggest challenge in any gay man’s life after 40 will be moving on from past relationships and creating a clean slate for new ones. Many clients I work with, who are looking to create new relationships, are still holding on to their ex-boyfriends even after many years have passed. In this article I will help you understand why breaking up is difficult and I will help you become aware of automatic patterns from childhood that make some relationships very difficult to let go of.
Discover how to find your purpose and create long-term fullfillment and happiness in your life even though you might be single and struggling inside gay relationships. Find out the biggest challenges that gay men face when searching for their purpose and how to overcome them. Pay close attention to why gay men take longer than straight men to discover their purpose.
The coming out process, which often takes between 5-10 years forces every gay man to focus on sexuality and relationships. This is why many gay men lag behind in terms of personal development and achievement. In this video you will discover why coming out is essential to finding your purpose.
In this video you will learn about how to bring more passion and excitement to your dating. You see – when you have fun during dating, the relationships that come out of that are also fun, exciting and adventurous. Every gay man can have a great time during dating when he includes his hobbies and interests during dating. So go, make a list of your hobbies and interests and invite your date to those activities and don’t forget to watch this video for more ideas.
Sexual compatibility can take away opportunities to make new friends and develop long term relationships. In a world of top and bottom we never get the full package. “Perfect sex” usually comes at the cost of personality mismatch. A new perspective is helpful to make better choices for lovers and friends.
I believe that looking for sexual compatibility has nothing to do with sexual compatibility but it has everything to do with the desire to feel comfortable, validated and accepted. I think that the reason why gay men are looking for sexual compatibility is because they are looking to reduce uncertainty, abandonment and rejection when meeting others. Because sexual connection is the easiest to experience, given the time and effort involved, it kidnaps the process of connecting and gives an illusion of a connection.
Gay men have more difficulty achieving the state of flow. In this video and article I will share with you how to enter the state of flow and how to stay there for as long as possible. State of flow is a state where your worries go away, where all the uncertainty, ambiguity and fear go away and you get into action towards the goals and plans you have decided to achieve. And the feeling you get from the consistent execution of your ideas is what I call the “state of flow”.