Find out how to let go of the “STORY” for why you cannot have happiness, love and abundance in your life by paying attention to your past hurts and the level of energy every day.
It will take motivation and will power to remove your inhibitions and fear related to gay dating and gay relationships. Get rest, sleep well and become compassionate towards yourself to regain your strength and remove the limited thoughts from your life.
Are you burning bridges too soon? Are you closing yourself off from love in the name of controlling someone else’s life?
Commitment is more difficult than people think. Given that most people lack integrity with their own word, we should not expect commitment from our lovers unless we first work on commitment with ourselves in the areas of money, health and friendships. It takes decades for a gay man to develop enough character to have integrity with himself. Most people never develop that skill.
It is naïve to assume that because he says “I love you” that automatically his behavior will fit into the norms created by society, specifically by religious standards.
I think that gay men take things personally because they are more sensitive. The sensitivity comes from the negative experiences of meeting and interacting with other gay men socially and inside romantic relationships.
Breakups, rejections, criticisms during interactions can deregulate any gay man emotionally, even the strongest one. Most gay men are “on guard”. We are more imbalanced emotionally than straight people. Whenever someone offers feedback, we often leash out on them, we get personal, we attack them or we shut down and internalize the comments. It all starts with connecting the criticism to our identity. This is called internalization. When someone makes negative comments, we assume that they are true and we “swallow” those comments like food even though they are not true.
Then, after a few days or weeks we become angry at ourselves for accepting those negative comments (as opposed to fighting back) and we transfer our anger onto the gay men around us. This is why many gay men are angry all the time. It is a toxic cycle.
What are the challenges of dating a bisexual man? What if you are bisexual, what does that mean in the long-run? Can a bisexual man be ready for a commited relationship with a gay man? These are the questions I will answer in this week’s video.
Bisexuality is often the outcome of lack of supportive and loving experiences with gay men. Most bisexual men have not experienced a loving and caring gay relationship. This is why they seek women as the only legitimate partner to settle down with. A bisexual man is often confused about gay life and only looks at gay men as sex objects. In addition, strong family values and reminders about the need to get married to a woman and have children, makes gay life very difficult to accept for a bisexual man.
A commited relationship with a bisexual man is very risky because he doesn’t know what he wants. A bisexual man will mostly look at gay men as sources for sexual pleasure and look at women at sources for companionship and status.
How would an MBA graduate approach gay dating and relationships? Is there a PROVEN methodology that ensures success in gay dating, relationships and marriage? The answer is a big “YES”. We know that the men who are more proactive and thoughtful about their dating and relationships efforts, create longer and more meaningful relationships.
The relationships that come out of proactivity and strategy last longer than the relationships that started with good sex. If you have challenges with dating, perhaps all you need is a better strategy and a proactive mindset.
Forgiveness and responsibility are the basics of “moving on” and are the foundation for lifelong learning. However, as a gay man over 40, when you forgive others too quickly, without assigning responsibility for their role in your conflict, you are bound to repeat the same mistakes in the future.
Most problems with gay relationships and gay dating start with “moving on” too fast, without clarity about who was responsible for which part of the conflict. Without addressing responsibility, logical connections between events, individuals and their roles in the conflict are never made and the insights are hidden behind the clout of forgiveness. Those insights are never learned so that future conflicts can be prevented.
Gay men must remember that forgiveness is ONLY a spiritual process and not a tool of learning. To avoid repeating the same mistakes in gay dating and relationships, a gay man must connect the dots between situations, people and their roles, assign proper responsibility AND THEN forgive.
Do you want a committed and monogamous gay relationships but face frustrations and rejections? Are you running a “get rich quick scheme” in your personal life?
Success in business and health depends on competence, knowledge and lots of practice. The same applies to gay dating and relationships. The more you learn about how to meet gay men, how to connect with them in a conversation, how to resolve conflict and how to understand emotions, the easier it is to create commitment, monogamy and longevity.
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