Welcome to my website – a place where you can empower yourself with knowledge and wisdom about gay life that is difficult to find elsewhere.
Paul came out at the age of 19 and experienced gay relationships and friendships while living in popular gay locations of: Chicago, New York, Fort Lauderdale, Miami and Denver.
Paul met Frank in 2010 and continues to build a strong and authentic relationship with him despite challenges, broken hearts and mistakes. Relationship with Frank has given Paul a playground to test his ideas about sexuality, communication and bonding.
Ever since I moved to Colorado in 2015, I have fallen in love with the mountains. I especially love hiking at night with lights clipped to my forehead. Periodically I sit down on the ground and turn the lights off and feel the vibrations of nature in total darkness.
Frank is doing amazing. We are having the best time of our lives hiking tall mountains, visiting cabins, trails, caves and hot tubs. One fascinating part about hiking in late summer is the amount of mushrooms growing on the ground in the forests. If you are a mushroom lover, summer and fall hikes in Colorado are a must.
In the near future I will be moving further into the mountains – hiking through the most beautiful trails in the state. I plan to spend my 40’s in the Colorado area.
Since 2010, Paul has worked with 1,000’s of gay men. Below are videos from a small number of Paul’s students who volunteered to go on camera and share their story. Enjoy!
By 2020, Paul has spent over 11,000 hours coaching gay professionals. With over 700 publicly available videos on YouTube and social media, Paul is the world’s leader in educating gay men about gay relationships and gay sexuality.
After coaching for many years, Paul put together courses that show gay men how to create lifelong relationships. These courses address the key areas of all gay relationships: dating strategy, compatibility, sexuality & bonding.
Paul is the founder of the Big Gay Family Social Program that offers introductions, video courses and personal coaching.
An interesting fact about Paul is that in his mid 20’s he worked as a personal trainer. The photos were taken in Chicago in 2005 – at the height of 6’3″ and 230 lb of solid muscle. His interest in body building started at the age of 14.
In reality, staying that big involved lots of sacrifice, endless hours at the gym, ridiculous eating habits and lifting heavy weights.
Today, Paul is no longer interested in building muscles. The health and fitness perspective has changed drastically. No more protein powders, no more supplements, no more gyms. Today Paul has an exercise machine at home and the rest includes long walks in nature, hikes, healthy eating at home and regular fasting.
In 2020 Paul will be working on a health and fitness program to help gay men stay fit and healthy. Health is the most important thing in life and Paul has always believed that with good health – anything is possible.