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Paul came out at the age of 19 and experienced gay relationships and friendships while living in popular gay locations of: Chicago, New York, Fort Lauderdale, Miami and Denver.
Paul met Frank in 2010 and continues to build a strong and authentic relationship with him despite challenges, broken hearts and mistakes. Relationship with Frank has given Paul a playground to test his ideas about sexuality, communication and bonding.
Ever since I moved to Colorado in 2015, I have fallen in love with the mountains. I especially love hiking at night with lights clipped to my forehead. Periodically I sit down on the ground and turn the lights off and feel the vibrations of nature in total darkness.
Frank is doing amazing. We are having the best time of our lives hiking tall mountains, visiting cabins, trails, caves and hot tubs. One fascinating part about hiking in late summer is the amount of mushrooms growing on the ground in the forests. If you are a mushroom lover, summer and fall hikes in Colorado are a must.
In the near future I will be moving further into the mountains – hiking through the most beautiful trails in the state. I plan to spend my 40’s in the Colorado area.
My biggest challenge at this time is to stay true to myself (to my ideas). I get angry with the “profoundly ridiculous” ideas that the LGBT culture is pushing onto gay men including gender bending and identity bending ideologies. I am disappointed that so many gay men can be so gullible and naive about the consequences of identity and gender changes.
I would love to see a faster awakening by gay men world-wide. This awakening is necessary to break through the mediocre ideas that have been in the gay culture since the early 1980’s. I hope that with videos and education we can speed up the awakening. Until then, love and relationships will only be available to those who have access to trainers and relationship coaches.
By 2020, Paul has spent over 11,000 hours coaching gay professionals. With over 700 publicly available videos on YouTube and social media, Paul is the world’s leader in educating gay men about gay relationships and gay sexuality.
After coaching for many years, Paul put together courses that show gay men how to create lifelong relationships. These courses address the key areas of all gay relationships: dating strategy, compatibility, sexuality & bonding.
Paul is the founder of the Big Gay Family Social Program that offers introductions, video courses and personal coaching.