Amazing interview with Arnie Vargas who is a counselor and workshop facilitator for gay men. How do you choose who is good for you and why? How do you deal with top-bottom incompatibility? Why do some gay men project their own insecurities of “I am not good enough” into “he is not good enough for me”.
Emotional availability is the most important requirement for a healthy relationship. Without emotional availability, you cannot create trust, safety and acceptance, which are part of the bonding and connecting process. You must demand and require emotional expression from every man you date and put on standby those relationships which show emotional limitation and emotional unavailability. Everything you will experience inside emotionally empty relationship is torture and slow death and you know it!