Why so many gay men take things personally.

I think that gay men take things personally because they are more sensitive. The sensitivity comes from the negative experiences of meeting and interacting with other gay men socially and inside romantic relationships.

Breakups, rejections, criticisms during interactions can deregulate any gay man emotionally, even the strongest one. Most gay men are “on guard”. We are more imbalanced emotionally than straight people. Whenever someone offers feedback, we often leash out on them, we get personal, we attack them or we shut down and internalize the comments. It all starts with connecting the criticism to our identity. This is called internalization. When someone makes negative comments, we assume that they are true and we “swallow” those comments like food even though they are not true.

Then, after a few days or weeks we become angry at ourselves for accepting those negative comments (as opposed to fighting back) and we transfer our anger onto the gay men around us. This is why many gay men are angry all the time. It is a toxic cycle.

Should Gay Men Date Bisexual Men For Commited Relationships

What are the challenges of dating a bisexual man? What if you are bisexual, what does that mean in the long-run? Can a bisexual man be ready for a commited relationship with a gay man? These are the questions I will answer in this week’s video.

Bisexuality is often the outcome of lack of supportive and loving experiences with gay men. Most bisexual men have not experienced a loving and caring gay relationship. This is why they seek women as the only legitimate partner to settle down with. A bisexual man is often confused about gay life and only looks at gay men as sex objects. In addition, strong family values and reminders about the need to get married to a woman and have children, makes gay life very difficult to accept for a bisexual man.

A commited relationship with a bisexual man is very risky because he doesn’t know what he wants. A bisexual man will mostly look at gay men as sources for sexual pleasure and look at women at sources for companionship and status.