Why Strong Gay Men After 40 Need More Nurturing And Self-Love To Overcome Gay Dating And Relationship Anxieties, Fears And Rejections

Gay dating for men over 40 can create disappointments and frustrations even for the strongest and smartest of men. Strong gay men over 40 can benefit more from self-nurturing than younger gay men because of the nature of masculinity which with age can create rigidity, crustiness and stubbornness as protection against rejections, anxieties and disappointments.

Nurturing for the smart and strong gay men is more important than acquiring knowledge and achieving goals because nurturing creates the happy and nonjudgmental attitude towards life and other gay men. The gay men who receive very little nurturing from parents and themselves, often end up bitter, judgmental and develop fears of intimacy with others.

This video and article will help you see if you have received enough nurturing in your life and how you can create more of it today and open your heart and mind to more dating and more love.

Myth of gay sexual compatibility in gay dating and relationships.

Sexual compatibility can take away opportunities to make new friends and develop long term relationships. In a world of top and bottom we never get the full package. “Perfect sex” usually comes at the cost of personality mismatch. A new perspective is helpful to make better choices for lovers and friends.

I believe that looking for sexual compatibility has nothing to do with sexual compatibility but it has everything to do with the desire to feel comfortable, validated and accepted. I think that the reason why gay men are looking for sexual compatibility is because they are looking to reduce uncertainty, abandonment and rejection when meeting others. Because sexual connection is the easiest to experience, given the time and effort involved, it kidnaps the process of connecting and gives an illusion of a connection.

Be courageous, take risks and let go of your rigid expectations in gay dating and gay relationships.

This Valentine’s Day 2016 lets remind ourselves about the three foundations for love: taking more risks with people, being more courageous with your dating and reducing your expectations. That formula always works because this is the Mother Nature formula for love that never fails.

If you are struggling in gay dating it is probably because you forgot about this universal principle that makes love go around. So – get to it – start taking more courage, allow risk and reduce your expectations and your heart will become alive. again and you will feel the rush of new love in your life.

Power of acceptance in gay life to overcome frustrations in gay dating and relationships.

I struggle so many times in my life. I continually face difficulties and challenges. Acceptance is my favorite tool in regaining control, spiritual balance and then learning lessons from whatever it is that I am struggling with.

Through the practice of acceptance, my struggles become like walking against the wind – the wind blows at me – I don’t ask the wind to stop – I accept it. When you do this more often, the resistance in your life can actually become fun. As you are dating people – there will be a “wind effect”, some friction, some resistance – and through acceptance you can allow that to be – just accept it without trying to change it.

Importance Of Struggle And Suffering In Gay Life

I would like to share with you some tips about how to approach suffering and struggling – especially if you are a gay man over 40 who is new to emotional anxieties and suffering. If something bad is happening in your life that is causing you to suffer, there is a way to “look” it that will make you feel better. In other words, there is a softer approach to suffering that can make a huge difference for you.

The starting point is to accept your suffering without trying to change it. Acceptance will allow you to concentrate on the actual suffering instead of focusing on trying to stop the suffering. There is a big difference. Most gay men, when they are suffering, they try to stop it by compensation with sex, alcohol and drugs. Sometimes they cover up their suffering with more work – they “stay busy”. Some gay men travel consistently to avoid dealing with the suffering of being single and lonely.