Randall sought my help because he was stuck being miserable and had no idea how to get out of his misery. In his life he had experienced moments of great joy and sense of oneness with all of life, but those moments were infrequent. He wanted more of those moments but had no idea how to bring them about.
Jim consulted with me because his boyfriend of 18 years had threatened to leave him if he didn’t stop blaming him all the time. He admitted to frequently blaming him in a variety of situations. He blamed him if he thought he made a mistake, if he thought he was wrong about something, if he was feeling alone, or even if he had a bad day at work.
How many times have you lost control of yourself when you’re angry? Did you do or said something which you regretted over time?