How To Manage Your Anxieties In Gay Life
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Stories From Clients:
As opposed to looking at a prospective partner only through physical ways, I have learned to look at someone from the physical, logical and emotional side. I need to look at my long term plans and see if my prospective partners plans match up with my future plans. Only then I can have a truly successful relationship.
Eric
I was lost. I was not doing well socially, I wasn’t making friends I wasn’t meeting anyone very much. Luckily, I run into Paul one day.
He was a big help. And now my life is a lot better because of it. I am much more social. I am getting along better in the gay world. I understand it now. Paul has been very helpful, and I am leading a much nicer life now.
Ken
I felt that for some years I have been spinning my wheels – not having a direction. These principles that I have learned were helpful in ways of helping me become more peaceful, more centered, more aware.
Tom
What impressed me about Paul was that his level of thinking about gay psychology and gay relationships was a lot more sophisticated than I had given it credit. I didn’t realize that there were people like Paul who were thinking about gay issues in much more nuanced terms, much more sophisticated ways. I didn’t realize how much I had sort of written off the gay community and gay psychology.
Ron
Meet Paul
Paul Angelo is a gay matchmaker and a relationship coach working exclusively with gay professional men over 40 who are ready for a serious relationship and marriage. By 2017, Paul has spent over 8,000 hours coaching and guiding his clients in the areas of gay dating and relationships.
With over 60 video testimonials and over 550 publicly available videos about gay psychology, Paul is the world’s leader in gay education about the psychology of romantic relationships and gay sexuality. Paul is the creator of multiple video-based coaching programs about gay compatibility, gay psychology and gay sexuality: Gay Compatibility Formula, Sex On Rocks, Gay Life Mastery.
Paul’s contribution to the world of gay psychology includes the development of a brand new gay philosophy and a brand-new framework for gay sexuality that simplifies dating, creates commitment and monogamy.
Paul is the creator of a popular and high-end matchmaking program called: Big Gay Family that changes the way gay men meet and creates relationships that start with emotional connection instead of sexual. All men are welcome to join Big Gay Family and experience a paradigm shift in personal friendships and relationships.
Virtually all gay men today come with socially conditioned, fear-based beliefs about gay sexuality, dating and relationships. The first step in working with Paul is to undo the dysfunctional beliefs and install a process of dating that reduces mistakes, frustrations and sabotage. Paul is the first gay coach who combined coaching with matchmaking to make learning fun and adventurous for his clients. Ever since 2010, Paul continues to lead the gay coaching industry with innovative solutions to the challenges of gay life.
Paul’s new book “The Gay Genius And The Birth Of Gay Supremacy”, expected to be published in Spring 2017, is the outcome of 7 years of study and research of gay philosophy, psychology and sociology. Paul breaks with the heterosexual conventions and introduces innovative solutions in all areas of gay life: dating, sexuality and marriage. Paul predicts that the next 5 years will bring about a Gay Renaissance in ideology equivalent to the Renaissance in art, architecture and New Thought of the 14th century Italy. Paul expects that the future for gay men will bring progress, love and happiness much greater than what we have seen in the heterosexual world spanning the past 10,000 years of modern history.
5 Distinctions For Success In Gay Relationships
#1: Gay men have a significant advantage in life because there is no separation of gender in gay relationships. This means that the challenges in gay relationships come mostly from the influences of heterosexual norms into gay life.
#2: Singularity is a moment in a gay man’s life when his interactions with other gay men are no longer negatively affected by shame and copying from heterosexual norms. Heterosexual norms are rejected and new skills for interaction with gay men produce unprecedented depth in friendships and relationships.
#3: Attraction expands in proportion to healthy emotional interactions with other gay men. Attraction is not static. Any gay man can build a strong reciprocal attraction with other gay men, regardless of body type, age and looks. Frozen attraction, which is difficult to reciprocate inside a healthy relationship comes from sexual shame and lack of consistent and emotional sharing with other gay men.
#4: Gay Sexuality that produces commitment and monogamy relies on the completion of the Sexual Developmental Stage and the verbal expression of sexual impulses. Every gay man can experience full sexual satisfaction when he achieves completion of his sexual development. Suppressed sexual impulses often lead gay men into dysfunctional relationships. When sexual impulses are acknowledged and openly shared with other gay men, sexuality becomes a vehicle for intimacy and connectivity instead of a tool for power-play and compensation for weak masculinity.
#5: Gay men offer a possibility to solve complex problems that heterosexuals cannot solve. Nature has produced gay men through evolutionary pathways that enable humanity to reach the new potential. All gay men are lucky to be part of a historical shift in human development unprecedented since the beginning of mankind.
Meet Paul’s Clients
For a gay man to hire a coach, it takes courage and humility. Masculinity does not surrender to help easily. Yet this is the beginning of any gay man’s transformation. Healthy masculinity acknowledges pain and reaches for help. Life is too short to wage every battle alone. Those who surrender to coaching and growth achieve their dreams within just a few years of hard work and persistence.
Paul’s clients are gay professionals, gay executives & gay entrepreneurs who are accustomed to problem solving strategies in business and who rely on outside experts for solutions. They understand that the same applies to personal life. With coaching and matchmaking they are able to gain competence and practice and create relationships much faster and with fewer mistakes.
Paul has worked with Harvard graduates, NASA employees, executives from Fortune 50 companies, actors, realtors, psychologists and healthcare professionals. Every year, Paul dedicates 100 hours of pro bono (free) coaching to help those gay men who cannot afford his services.
Events | Workshop Reviews
Hi, my name is David, I was at Paul’s workshop now and it was a great experience, it was very relaxing, I felt very tranquil and at peace and it gave me a new perspective at what I can do and what I can accomplish.
David
I was just at Paul Angelo’s group and I want to tell you its really great. I just met 6 new friends. We get together, its actually about 25 people here, we talk about dating issues, relationship issues, health, everything and anything and we get together to share. And looking to do trips, movies, restaurants, cruises together… its a wonderful way to meet people, outside the bar, no pressure about who is going to do what with whom, so come meet with us and I am looking forward to seeing you.
Marcus
I am Dailey, I am glad I came here this evening and I am looking forward to using these principles tonight to get a new relationship going on. Keep up rocking on!
Dailey
My name is Patricio, this is my first time at this meeting.I liked it I had a very good experience. People are very open and very honest. People share their experiences. Some people are new some not. I would recommend you join us next time.
Patricio
I had a really good time, It was a very interesting event. Everyone is very committed to have a relationship and very honest about it and it was interesting to hear other people talk about their relationships. I benefited from it – I enjoyed listening to people and sharing my views.
Brian
Hi, my name is Devon, I am a guest here at Paul’s event. I had a great time, I wasn’t expecting to have a great time as I did … I am sure you will too. Paul was a nice, warm inviting guy, he didn’t put you on the spot, he made sure you were comfortable.
Devon
Hi, my name is Renzo. I came to Paul’s workshop and this definitely help me realize a more positive outcome in my life. Lately I have been in a negative stock hold and this just took me out of it.
And I feel more optimistic and confident about what I can do as well as the things that I cannot control and its all about letting go and realizing what your full potential is and what you can and cannot control. Thank you.
Renzo
My name is Liam, I came today to Paul’s workshop. I just moved to Miami and I needed to de-stress and it was really relaxing to go within, to shift my priorities and see what is really important. It was really a great time and I definitely recommend it.
Liam
Hi, my name is Robert. This is my 4th time I have been to Paul’s group. I have found it to be quite helpful. There are ways that I was looking for a relationship that was not productive. I have changed, I have gone out of my comfort zone. I found this meeting to be very valuable, thank you.
Robert
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